“I look fat in this” “I would die for her body” “He thinks I am fat” “I have no boobs” “I am on this new fad diet…again” “I look like a boy.”
Have you ever said statements like this? I know I have. Instead of spending time trying to accept our body, we waste time comparing ourselves to others, beating up our bodies, starving ourselves and place obtaining the ‘perfect body’ at the top of our priority list. This is a tragedy in modern day society. In the moments when we are suppose to be celebrating life such as, your child’s birthday, your graduation, your wedding day, I mean damn even at your funeral, the most important thing on the agenda is ‘looking good.’ Skinny, but not too skinny. Boobs, but not too big. Round medium sized ass, but no cellulite. Perfect skin, but no stretch marks. Toned, but not too toned. It sounds like the children’s book “Goldie Locks,” not too hot, not too cold, but just right.
As someone who struggled with body image, and an eating disorder, majority of my life, I understand this conflict. I missed out on proms, high school dances, and immature movie dates with guys all due to a lack of acceptance of my body. One day I told myself that there was no point. No matter how skinny or overweight I would be, people would find some way to discourage me. So I said, ‘Fuck it! I am going to be healthy, but enjoy my life!”
There is no genuine definition or equation to obtaining ‘beauty.’ Do not waste one more minute. The sexiest thing a woman can be is confident.
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