How to become a mental health advocate? You do not need a degree, a diagnosis or work as a licensed therapist to become a mental health advocate. The general idea behind advocacy is supporting mental health by spreading awareness, reducing stigma and supporting the cause. If you are looking for a way to become a mental health advocate, don’t worry I’ve got your back.
The author of this post, “Staying Positive About Schizophrenia,” is the beautiful Chrissy Phelps. Thank’s Chrissy for such an informative post about schizophrenia.
Staying Positive About Schizophrenia
Schizophrenia is a serious illness which affects the way you think, your feelings and behaviour. The National Alliance on Mental Illness estimates that it affects 1% of Americans. With symptoms like delusions, hallucinations and muddled thoughts, a diagnosis of schizophrenia is, without question, frightening. However, as these inspiring TED Talks demonstrate, it is possible to deal positively with mental illnesses, including schizophrenia, and live a successful and fulfilling life. Read more
Treatment plans for mental health care differ from situation to situation. In some cases, it calls for therapy and in other cases medication is needed. This doesn’t mean that when you wake up feeling sad, you call the doctor and start popping pills. However, when depression or severe emotional behavior begins to affect your daily life, work and relationships, it is time to seek help. There is no shame in taking medicines if needed. If you get the flu do you take meds? Yes. So what is the difference when it is the flu of the mind. There is none. Would you blame someone who lost her husband in war for seeking out medication for anxiety? Would you judge a woman for taking antidepressants who lost her child 2 months shy of his 1st birthday to cancer? We all want to end up at the same place, but some need to take a different route to the intersection of happy and healthy. There is no shame in that.
Reasons why people feel uneasy taking meds for the head… Read more
We have all seen the movie 10 Things I Hate About You, and Kat’s memorable speech to Heath Ledger at the end of the movie. Familiar? While reading this post, think about Stigma as if it is a person. Stigma has influenced many in society to make negative assumptions about mental health conditions. Stigma is like a bully.
1o things I hate about stigma… Read more
It was six years ago that I had my first major episode with Bipolar 2 while in College. I was living with a group of girls who this story is about. In the last month before I withdrew from school, I kept my struggle hidden from others, especially myself. Two days before I left, my parents were called by 2 of my friends. They told them that I was falling apart. Day by day I was getting worse. They realized they couldn’t help me, and decided not to tell the other girls. I do not like to talk about the pain of the past. However, a few days ago I learned that sometimes it is necessary to walk down memory lane, no matter how dark the road is… Read more
The stigma of mental illness SUCKS! It is so bad that it causes those in the mental health community to ask, Why does the public have such a deep misconception about mental health? The images relayed to the public pertaining to mental health are disturbing to say the least. To reduce this “madness” we have to acknowledge the ridiculousness of the images, and words, used to describe mental illness.
21 images that make you say to yourself, “Oh thats why people think the way they do about mental illness!” Read more
I was walking through a dark tunnel, no light to be seen. All I could hear were the echoes of my own voice. In the moment that I wanted to stop, to give up on finding the light, I felt the strength and confidence you had instilled in me over the years, prior to this moment. You didn’t come into the tunnel to guide me to the light, for you knew that would not help me in the end. You gave me the knowledge, the power and confidence to overcome this battle prior to me entering. As I walked into the light again, you were standing there gleaming with joy saying to me, “I never doubted you Hannah….I knew you wouldn’t give up.”-Halway2hannah
The first man who had his heart broken by me,was my father. To see the little girl who danced to the beat of her own drum laying in a hospital bed, withering away only 19 years later; he could protect me from everything in my life, but the one person he couldn’t protect me from was me.
This is a letter to my father from his daughter with bipolar… Read more
If you are looking for me to say how much I hate my life with bipolar 2 disorder, you will not find it in this post. It does not define me, but it is a major part of who I am. If you erase my bipolar disorder, you erase me as a whole. I am never going to live without it, and I want to give others a taste of my reality. I do not place pressure on myself to be perfect. I am honest. This is my mind; this is my journey. Here is a little bit of what it is like to live in the mind of a 28-year-old diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder. Read more
64 Mental Health Quotes that help you understand the struggle, the stigma and the hope for a better future! Never give up!
If you are in need of support, please go to the Halfway2hannah Support Page!
You are not alone.
Dating is hard enough with or without a chemical imbalance. People are heavily influenced by stigma, and get it twisted when it comes to building a romantic relationship with a girl who has a mental illness. As a girl diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder, it is difficult to be vulnerable in love. I believe this is what she wants you to understand about her.
She was never crazy, she just didn’t let her heart settle in a cage. She was born wild,and sometimes we need people like her. For it’s the horrors in her heart which cause the flames in ours. And she was always willing to burn for everything she has ever loved. -R.M Drake
17 things you should know about dating a girl with mental illness…
1. It is not expected of you to completely understand mental illness.
She does not expect you to be a book of knowledge about mental illness. Mental illness is meant to be a mystery, and those of us who live with it are the only ones who can truly understand the world that exists within us. It is not expected of you to completely understand, however, it is expected that you support us on our journey. I mean that is a rule in every relationship, right?
2. Mental illness does not define her.
If her mental illness blocks you from seeing her beauty and individuality than it is best to leave her be. People with mental illness are professionals, educated, well traveled, creative, artists and individuals. Do not judge her character based on her condition.
3. Listening is more important than fixing.
Mental illness cannot be fixed. It is not a broken table or flat tire. She does not expect you to know how to ‘fix’ her problem. It is more important to have someone listen and be present.
4. Do not blame all you relationship problems on her mental illness.
This one is a biggie! Mental illness causes us to have emotional extremes, however, not every mood change or situation should be blamed on it. She is not a scapegoat. It is important to eliminate mental illness from the conversation, and reflect on your own actions, as well as your partners.
5. She is insecure about her situation or diagnosis.
Duh! Remember that the stigma of mental illness leads to feelings of nervousness, guilt and shame in any type of relationship, especially a romantic one. When it comes to sharing information, she fears being judged by others.
She is delightfully chaotic; a beautiful mess. Loving her is a splendid adventure. – Steve Maraboli
6. She is not pushing you away on purpose.
I am definitely a pusher! People with mental illness can say hurtful things or act like they don’t care, however, it is meant to protect you rather than to hurt you. Speaking from personal experience, it is difficult to trust others, and let people in to that part of my life. This fear causes me to reject my feelings, and push him away. This does not mean these actions should be condoned, but confronted at an appropriate time. An apology will follow shortly after, and if not she may just be a bitch!
7. She does not want you to hide your feelings from her.
Be honest about your feelings with her. Do not conceal your personal problems and feelings due to your fear that she will get upset. Relationships are based off of reciprocity.
8. Her way of thinking may be different than yours, but that does not mean it is bad.
You may look at a painting, she feels it. Accept and embrace this way of emotional depth. Just because she is different, does not make her wrong. Date yourself if you want to be with someone who is just like you.
9. Mental illness is a disease, and should be treated as such.
If you believe mental illness is not real, then stop reading this blog post and cancel your next date or don’t move forward in your relationship. Save her from your ignorance. Not to be harsh, but anyone who does not believe mental illness exists is ignorant. If you love her put your personal bias about mental health to the side and educate yourself.
10. She can be overly sexual or not sexual at all.
People with mental illness can be extremely sexual at times. I know some of you are like, Score! However, there will be periods where not much is happening between the sheets. It may be due to medication or simply she is going through an episode of depression. Do not be offended or insecure! Be patient and it will come at its own time.
There are parts of me that will always remain untamable, messy, and reckless; but I refuse to apologize for it anymore.- Kaitlin Foster
11. Sometimes she ignores her internal pain.
Contrary to what people believe, people with mental illness are usually the ones helping others with their problems. People with mental illness may try to cover up their internal pain by exerting themselves on the behalf of others. Just remember, do not always be deceived by her smile.
12. She wants to tell others about her situation
The stigma of mental illness keeps people to be very quiet about the topic. This means she wants to explain her diagnosis to friends and family at her own time. It is a topic that has to be dealt with very gently. Let me tell you, I immediately know when I walk into a room if it has been said already. The half smile, wide eyed, and stiff posture makes it obvious.
13. Like any relationship, there will be challenges.
A major part of a romantic relationship is overcoming obstacles. Do not freak the moment difficulty arises in your relationship. Two chemically balanced individuals with no problems with depression, or any type of disease, still face challenges in their relationship. Always remember to separate mental illness from reality. Overcoming these challenges will only make your romantic relationship stronger.
14. It is not doomed from the start because she has a mental illness.
Do not go into the relationship with the constant thought that it is going to fail. Everyone, with or without a mental illness, has issues to deal with. She can add a unique element to your life. It is difficult at times, but that is in every relationship. Trust me, she is worth it.
15. Support is the best way to help her, NOT trying to save her.
I have faced this issue in many relationships. My potential partner finds out about my diagnosis & BAM he rips open his shirt with a big ‘S’ on his chest. A great way to unravel your romantic partner is by educating yourself about mental illness, and getting involved in the conversation. You are accompanying her on this journey. Take time to read up on mental health or volunteer at an event pertaining to it. You might learn something, and be one step closer to getting in her pants.
She had been through battle and though no one could her demons. They could see the face that conquered them.- Atticus
16. Sometimes she will withdraw or be distant.
There is no doubt that at certain points she is going to be mentally distant from you. This has nothing to do with her love for you. It means one of two things-she do not want to bother you with her problems or she needs a moment to reflect. If it continues, there is the option that she is just not that into it anymore. Sorry!
17. What makes her different, makes her beautiful.
What makes her different, makes her beautiful. Embrace it.
She never seemed shattered; to me, she was a breathtaking mosaic of the battle she’s won.-Matt Baker
If you are having trouble in your relationship, do not be afraid to suggest therapy. In 2018, counseling is easily accessible through online platforms and technology. Resources such as BetterHelp provide online couples counseling with licensed and professional therapists. There is no shame in reaching out for help if you want to make it work with your partner.