She is such a slut! Ew, she is huge! Did you see what she was wearing? Why is he dating her?
The goal is to build a ‘sisterhood’ between women, however, there is still much work to be done. We are harder on each other than we are on those keeping us below the glass ceiling. Several women shared with me a situation, in which they felt abused or embraced by their fellow female comrade. It is evident that a readjustment of our attitudes towards one another is necessary.
These are 6 things women need to stop doing to other women.
1. Stop blaming her for his infidelity.
This is common. The boyfriend cheats, we blame the woman for our relationship problems. She is not your problem, he is. In many situations the “other woman” does not even know he has a girlfriend, and if she does, karma will be a bigger bitch than you could ever be!
I gave another woman hell about sleeping with my boyfriend. She didn’t even know he had a girlfriend. I married him, and we had two children. He cheated on me with three different women throughout our marriage. We got divorced two years ago.-Melissa, 42
2. Don’t diminish each other’s life choices.
Whether you are a “work-aholic” or a “mom-aholic.” We need to empower each other’s life choices. We are all making progressive steps as mothers, and boss ladies. Clap for her, not at her.
I chose to have a career over having children. It was my decision. My sister has two daughters. My sister and I love to jump in each other’s shoes once in a while. We respect one another.-Erin, 38
3. Stop calling her a Slut.
We are justifying this type of name calling when we say it about other women. If your girlfriend is living a lifestyle you think is dangerous than confront her about it, don’t call her degrading names for her sexual decisions.
I have had my fair share of sexual partners, but always use protection. I enjoy sex, and I am not ashamed to say so. I have been called a “slut” more by women, than I have been by men.-Johanna, 27
4. Stop body shaming.
It’s bad enough we have to hear it from guys. Women have the power to change this, but for some reason we brutally scrutinize other women’s bodies. Body shaming other females is more mentally damaging than you think.
I went to join a sorority my Freshman year at the University I attended. We had to do the cliche “rush.” One night the sorority sisters lined us up in our bathing suits, and used a marker to circle the areas of our body they found unflattering. I went home to see myself in the mirror covered in marker with words like PIG! FAT! UGLY! I dropped out a week later.-Alison, 24
5. Start embracing, and stop competing.
Being a woman is not a sport, and girlfriends are not suppose to be enemies. We are all different, and bring something different to the table. If you feel insecure around other women, look inside yourself to find the root of the problem.
My best friend is a supermodel, but she has always empowered me. We go shopping, and she dresses me up when we go out. We did not compete, we built each other up. She is a major part of the reason why I am so confident today. Kara, 25
6. Her style may not be your style accept it.
She is not “white trash” because she has tattoos, and she is not a “snot” because she wears Lilly Pulitzer. Instead of calling her blue hair “weird,” call it “eccentric.” Let’s embrace our differences, and respect each others style.
I came from a Conservative home, and my best friend was a wild child from Boston. Her style was totally different, she had tattoos, talked about sex and everything in-between. At first I bashed her. Then one night, we drank wine, and I opened up to her about everything. She was my Maid of Honor at my wedding.-Catherine, 28