I will never forget when my ex would grab the rolls off the table as I would reach for them, and say to the waiter, “She doesn’t need these,” or all the times he asked for a togo box after I took my first three bites of a meal at a restaurant. I am not looking for sympathy by telling you this because I already disposed of that garbage. I am confirming that is type of cruel behavior actually happens, so proceed with caution. Body image issues are heavily present among women. We are surrounded by things that make us question our reflection constantly. The last thing we need is for our guy to do the same. So I am going to help you guys out. Here are 9 rules to follow when it comes to her body that could potentially save your relationship and your life.
1. Mind your business when it comes to her eating habits.
Tell her to get dessert when you go out to eat. You don’t have to be our nutritionist or personal trainer, in fact we prefer that you are not. Its our body, not yours, and if you don’t like it then leave. Trust me the damage of a break up is not half as bad as the damage of body shaming.
2. Do not mention her weight.
Even if you are saying, “Wow you look like you lost a lot of weight,” you could enter the danger zone. “So you are saying I was fat before?” To a woman, commenting on weight means that it plays a major role in your relationship. It is almost if we feel like you are constantly watching how we fit in our jeans. Maybe you are not, but this is how our mind works.
3. Don’t buy her a weight related gift.
“Merry Christmas hun, I bought you a Jenny Craig Membership!” I hope you kept the receipt, because after she has lit the tree on fire, you are going to want to return it! Imagine if you open your Christmas gift, and it is a hair transplant consultation. You didn’t think you were balding, but immediately you know that she does! Buy her a gift that flatters her, and not a months supply of Nutrisystem.
4. Do not order for her.
It doesn’t matter if you are a French cuisine expert, and the best thing on the menu is the house salad. Trust me, women know what salads taste like. We want you to indulge us, make us feel like you want to feed us delicious treats and make us plump. Don’t ask, its complicated.
5. Do not buy her clothes.
Some women may love the fact that their man buys them clothes, but come the day you buy one size bigger, that dress is going to be in the garbage along with you. You don’t need to buy us clothes, and as women, we should not be asking men to do our shopping for us. Don’t feel obligated…buy her a gift card always.
6. Grab the most insecure part of her body & tell her you love it.
It may be her butt or love handles, if you know she is insecure about specific parts of her body, let her know that you love them, to the extent that it turns you on. You have the ability to build her up, only making her a better partner in the relationship, and you getting more action.
7. If you think she is lacking confidence, make her feel like the sexiest woman on the planet.
Go out and buy her lingerie or just grab her and tell her how hot she is. She will probably give you the “Oh stop!” but inside heart is pounding with joy. Even the most confident women in the world go through these spurts.
8. Remind her that you love every inch of her body.
Remind her every once in a while that you love the design of her body shape. This is not a daily thing. Things in the environment we live in have the ability to really make women feel insecure, especially physically. The last thing we want, is for our safe place to be the place we feel the most insecure.
9. If you are concerned that she is gaining weight, ask the right way.
It is all in the approach! If you are concerned about fast weight gain or loss, do not ask…“Hey why are you putting on a lot of weight?” instead ask, “Hey, are you feeling okay these days? Is something bothering you?” Excessive weight gain or loss in a short amount of time usually has to do with something going on inside her head, not her stomach.
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