Why People Feel Uneasy Taking Meds for the Head

Treatment plans for mental health care differ from situation to situation.  In some cases, it calls for therapy and in other cases medication is needed.  This doesn’t mean that when you wake up feeling sad, you call the doctor and start popping pills.  However, when depression or severe emotional behavior begins to affect your daily life, work and relationships, it is time to seek help.  There is no shame in taking medicines if needed.  If you get the flu do you take meds?  Yes.  So what is the difference when it is the flu of the mind.  There is none.  Would you blame someone who lost her husband in war for seeking out medication for anxiety?  Would you judge a woman for taking antidepressants who lost her child 2 months shy of his 1st birthday to cancer?  We all want to end up at the same place, but some need to take a different route to the intersection of happy and healthy.  There is no shame in that.

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We Are Petrified Of Falling In Love & This Is Why…

It is the first time in years you have been decently balanced on the beam.  You wobble, but not falling off is good enough for you.  And then you look behind you, and you see it coming…Love…and your feet hit the floor.

We are the patients of love.  So do you take the chance that you may hit the floor again?  Is it worth it?  First we have to acknowledge the reasons for why we fear the most beautiful part of life.

We are petrified of falling in love & this is why…

1.  …because it means we will finally have to let our guard down.

We will finally be forced to share the story that we have yet to share with ourselves.  To be open and reveal our insecurities with the fear that someone will take advantage of our vulnerability.

2.  …because we are afraid that our love won’t be reciprocated.

Relationships are never 50/50, and this is normal.  However, when it becomes 80/20, and we are on the 80 side of the equation, it emphasizes our insecurities.  It makes us feel weak, and powerless, building our inner wall a little higher when it comes to love.

3.  …because we are petrified that he/she will not accept our flaws.

Revealing our authentic selves is difficult.  It is scary to think that at the point in your life when you have finally embraced your imperfections, someone could come along, and make you think the opposite.  Being single seems worth it if it means we do not have to revert back to resenting the parts of us that we have been working towards accepting.

4.  …because if it does not work, it breaks a little piece of us.

Because each time our heart breaks, it breaks a piece of our minds and our soul.  And too many chips falling off could lead to the whole thing breaking.  It undeniably hurts, and as time goes on you may lose hope that love even exists.  A thought that is truly tragic.

5  ….because longing and lusting for him/her is just as scary as it is pleasurable.

Love is passion, and this is a beautiful element of it.  However, allowing someone to come into your life, and maintain this type of power over your body and mind can be just as scary, as it is pleasurable.

6.  …because we might bring the baggage of our past relationships into the next.

You fear that the damage done by ex-lovers will tag along with you into your next potential relationship.  It is hard to admit to yourself that someone from your past has had a negative influence on your present behaviors.  You don’t want to take baggage into your next relationship, so you are fearful about entering into one.

So what do we do…

We acknowledge our past, and confront our fears.  We take the risk, and fall in love.  If there is one thing in this world that is worth risking a lot for, it is love.  Love opens you up to new possibilities, and whether it fails or succeeds, relationships build your character.

Only reveal your authentic self when it is deserved.  Trust is to be earned, not given.  Enjoy the ride while it lasts, and if you hit the ground again, tell yourself that you are going to use the pain as a stepping stone to a successful future in life, and love.



6 Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Other Women

She is such a slut!  Ew, she is huge!  Did you see what she was wearing?  Why is he dating her?

The goal is to build a ‘sisterhood’ between women, however, there is still much work to be done.  We are harder on each other than we are on those keeping us below the glass ceiling.  Several women shared with me a situation, in which they felt abused or embraced by their fellow female comrade.  It is evident that a readjustment of our attitudes towards one another is necessary.

These are 6 things women need to stop doing to other women.  

1.  Stop blaming her for his infidelity.

This is common.  The boyfriend cheats, we blame the woman for our relationship problems.  She is not your problem, he is.  In many situations the “other woman” does not even know he has a girlfriend, and if she does, karma will be a bigger bitch than you could ever be!

I gave another woman hell about sleeping with my boyfriend.  She didn’t even know he had a girlfriend.  I married him, and we had two children.  He cheated on me with three different women throughout our marriage.  We got divorced two years ago.-Melissa, 42

2.  Don’t diminish each other’s life choices.

Whether you are a “work-aholic” or a “mom-aholic.” We need to empower each other’s life choices.  We are all making progressive steps as mothers, and boss ladies.  Clap for her, not at her.

I chose to have a career over having children.  It was my decision.  My sister has two daughters. My sister and I love to jump in each other’s shoes once in a while.  We respect one another.-Erin, 38

3.  Stop calling her a Slut.

We are justifying this type of name calling when we say it about other women.  If your girlfriend is living a lifestyle you think is dangerous than confront her about it, don’t call her degrading names for her sexual decisions.

I have had my fair share of sexual partners, but always use protection.  I enjoy sex, and I am not ashamed to say so.  I have been called a “slut” more by women, than I have been by men.-Johanna, 27

4.  Stop body shaming.

It’s bad enough we have to hear it from guys.  Women have the power to change this, but for some reason we brutally scrutinize other women’s bodies.  Body shaming other females is more mentally damaging than you think.

I went to join a sorority my Freshman year at the University I attended.  We had to do the cliche “rush.” One night the sorority sisters lined us up in our bathing suits, and used a marker to circle the areas of our body they found unflattering.  I went home to see myself in the mirror covered in marker with words like PIG! FAT! UGLY!  I dropped out a week later.-Alison, 24

5.  Start embracing, and stop competing.

Being a woman is not a sport, and girlfriends are not suppose to be enemies.  We are all different, and bring something different to the table.  If you feel insecure around other women, look inside yourself to find the root of the problem.

My best friend is a supermodel, but she has always empowered me.  We go shopping, and she dresses me up when we go out.  We did not compete, we built each other up.  She is a major part of the reason why I am so confident today. Kara, 25

6.  Her style may not be your style accept it.

She is not “white trash” because she has tattoos, and she is not a “snot” because she wears Lilly Pulitzer.  Instead of calling her blue hair “weird,” call it “eccentric.”  Let’s embrace our differences, and respect each others style.

I came from a Conservative home, and my best friend was a wild child from Boston.  Her style was totally different, she had tattoos, talked about sex and everything in-between.  At first I bashed her.  Then one night, we drank wine, and I opened up to her about everything.  She was my Maid of Honor at my wedding.-Catherine, 28



7 Things You Realize When You Do The Unexpected

As I was walking along Coronado Beach, I could hear the loud sounds of the fighter jets whizzing by my head.  I looked around and realized how quiet the people were around me.  I heard another jet coming.  I climbed to the top of a rock overlooking the beach, threw my arms to wave and blew kisses towards the pilot as if I was Marilyn Monroe in “Some Like It Hot.”  Suddenly the jet waved it’s wings, and increased speed.  You could hear the loud engine roar.  Smiles, laughs and claps came from the crowd.  Those who were seen rolling their eyes were merely bystanders to life, while I was actually living it.  An unexpected moment, that turned into an everlasting memory.-Halfway2hannah

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9 Ways To Reduce The Stigma Of Mental Illness

It does not matter if you have or do not have a mental disorder, stigma affects us all!  Mental health is a hot topic right now, and it has never been more important to work as a community to reduce stigma.  It is time we open up the mental health conversation on our terms this time!

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7 Reasons Why You Should Not Feel Ashamed About Mental Illness

It is ten minutes before I have to get up in front of a room full of people, and talk about my diagnosis of Bipolar II for the first time.  I run into the bathroom, and vomit.  I get up, wipe my face, reapply my lipstick and look in the mirror.  I ask myself, “Why the hell are you doing this Hannah?  You can live a good life without telling anyone.”  Then I thought,”Because you are not ashamed anymore…”   

This was the scene three years ago when I spoke about my diagnosis of Bipolar II for the first time at a mental health conference.  People with mental illness, situational or long-term, are scared more of just uttering the sentence, “I have a mental illness,” then they are of skydiving.  I have witnessed people wither away in their marriage, friendships and in daily life, due to this heavy weight on their shoulders and burning secret inside.

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8 Strategies To Improve Your Body Image

I look fat in this”  “I would die for her body” “He thinks I am fat” “I have no boobs” “I am on this new fad diet…again” “I look like a boy.”

Have you ever said statements like this?  I know I have.  Instead of spending time trying to accept our body, we waste time comparing ourselves to others, beating up our bodies, starving ourselves and place obtaining the ‘perfect body’ at the top of our priority list.  This is a tragedy in modern day society.  In the moments when we are suppose to be celebrating life such as, your child’s birthday, your graduation, your wedding day, I mean damn even at your funeral, the most important thing on the agenda is ‘looking good.’  Skinny, but not too skinny.  Boobs, but not too big.  Round medium sized ass, but no cellulite.  Perfect skin, but no stretch marks.  Toned, but not too toned.  It sounds like the children’s book “Goldie Locks,” not too hot, not too cold, but just right.

As someone who struggled with body image, and an eating disorder, majority of my life, I understand this conflict.  I missed out on proms, high school dances, and immature movie dates with guys all due to a lack of acceptance of my body.  One day I told myself that there was no point.  No matter how skinny or overweight I would be, people would find some way to discourage me.  So I said, ‘Fuck it! I am going to be healthy, but enjoy my life!”

There is no genuine definition or equation to obtaining ‘beauty.’  Do not waste one more minute.  The sexiest thing a woman can be is confident.

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An Artistic Alternative To Self-Harm: Creating Instead of Cutting

Self-harm is an emotional, and misunderstood topic.  It is difficult to comprehend the logic behind people inflicting intentional pain on themselves.  It is part of the struggle for many people suffering from mental illness.  Self-harm is not commonly done with the intentions of committing suicide.  More so, as a way to release internal pain.   You are thinking, Isn’t that backwards?  Inflicting pain to reduce it? Read more

The Interview: A Poem Written To Bring Awareness To The Stigma On Mental Illness

I wrote this poem on a piece of tissue paper, moments after I was interviewed by a bewildered young man…

The Interview

You thought today,

That the girl you would meet,

Would be a girl who is violent,

Who lives on the street,

Yes it is true,

I am diagnosed Bipolar Two,

But it seems as though,

By the swing of my hips,

The deep red of my lips,

A smile too kind,

This is a girl,

You hadn’t in mind,

You sit quietly puzzled,

Filled with feelings of guilt,

Because I’m not the girl society built,

You listen to others,

Persuading your views,

This is what has you,

Completely confused,

I see the ring on your finger,

A baby is on the way,

If this was your daughter,

What then would you say?

For people will judge her,

Take her ‘demons’ away’,

So this you must know,

And this I must say,

When you place judgement,

On those you don’t see,

Be aware of this my friend,

Your daughter may be me.

Hannah Blum

Marilyn and Mental Illness: An authors journey into the minds of iconic celebrities, linking them to mental illness

Lets play a game of who said it? “If you can’t take me at my worst, you can’t have me at my best”

Every woman reading this is probably rolling their eyes, thinking about how many times they posted this infamous Marilyn Monroe ‘phrase’ all over social media after a semi mid-life crisis also known as a break up. Read more